I’m Not Sure If I Care About Your Opinion…Yet.

We’ve all heard that you shouldn’t talk about politics or religion on the first few dates.  But I suggest taking it even further:  talk to each other as little as possible in the beginning. (And no, that doesn’t mean spend the whole time making out in the back seat of a car! Get your mind out the gutter!)

See, I’m a believer that talk is cheap.  I think the worst first dates possible are the standard ones: get a cup of coffee, grab a few drinks, or have dinner together.  If you’re trying to get to know someone and figure out if they’re a good match, a good life partner, or someone who you can accept ‘as-is,’ talking will not help you determine that. What we all want in a romantic partner is someone who is considerate, kind, someone you can laugh with,  and someone who makes you feel special.  Words aren’t necessary for any of that.


Life is about action! Holding hands, paying bills, cleaning the house, going to work, laughing, walking the dog, doing laundry, sharing moments with loved ones.  So when it comes time to plan your date with that possible someone special, get active!  Go walking, hiking, biking, rollerskating (which is a great throwback romantic date by the way), cooking, bowling, or going to the batting cage.

After all, the only time a person’s opinions and feelings really become important is if you already feel they’re special. So give them room to become special! And have fun while you’re at it.

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