Listen, long distance relationships are hard. I should know, I’ve been in one for over two years. There’s an overwhelming tension between not wanting to date from across the country and not wanting to give up on the person you love. Once you’ve decided you’re in, you have to be truly committed or things will fall apart. (Sorry friends, it’s the cold hard truth!)
Don’t lose hope! Many people have made it through the pit of LDRs and lived to tell the tale. Here are four ways to stay connected and committed while you’re in a long distance relationship:
1. Do more than text.
In our world, we text to communicate almost everything. Dinner plans, congratulations, annoyances, what our cats are doing–these are all frequently done through text message. While this may be the easiest way to keep your friendships afloat, it’s simply not enough for your romantic relationship.
Pick up the phone and chat for a while like you did when you first started dating. Flirt while you’re at it. Send a long email of encouragement before a stressful week. Set up a time to Skype after work. Connect outside of texting, it will serve you well. When you do text, keep it light. Reserve any heavy conversations for phone calls, Skype, or face-to-face.
2. Always, always, always know when you’ll see each other next.
One of the most difficult aspects of being in a LDR is knowing that you only get to see your boyfriend or girlfriend every once in a while. But not knowing WHEN you’ll see this person will make your frustration intensely amplified.
No matter how far away the date is on your calendar, always have set plans to see each other again. This will help you and your significant other get through the day-to-day without one another, because you’ll both know that your next “first kiss” is just around the corner!
Towards the end of each trip to see each other, take an hour and map out your next one. It doesn’t take long, and it will save you a lot of emotional distress!
3. Send thoughtful packages.
Notice that I said “thoughtful,” not “expensive” or “elaborate.” My boyfriend loves cereal, so I’ll wrap up a box and mail it to him every now and again. If your boo loves music, send him an iTunes gift card. She loves candy? Hit up the Dollar Store and mail a few boxes of her faves. It doesn’t have to be pricey, just thoughtful.
And how much fun is it to receive a package? It’s always a total day-brightener and week-maker.
4. Find something to bond over.
Since you live far apart, you can’t usually bond over the happenings of your day-to-day life. That’s why it’s important to find something else to chat about so you don’t feel too left out of one another’s lives. Some ideas? A favourite sports team, band, or TV show. My boyfriend and I love The Office, so we always send each other funny quotes and photos and sometimes watch an episode “together” (at the same time in our respective locations) for kicks and giggles!
I know it’s not easy to be in a long distance relationship, but it’s also not forever. I wish you the best of luck! Has anyone found any other great ways to stay connected while you’re apart? Share your secrets by commenting below!
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