Ever fallen into the “So, what do you do?” trap? It’s an easy one to fall into. The early days of dating are a lot like a series of job interviews. There are tests and questions and that feeling of not being entirely sure of what they’re looking for. You can be taken out of the running at any time and may never really know why. These days, though, employers are coming up with more creative questions to ask prospective applicants. Why not do the same on a personal level? Here are some creative questions you can ask your date. They can help you both feel a bit less like you’re being grilled in a job interview, yet will help you to feel out whether or not the two of you are compatible.
1. If you were given a billion dollars, what would you do with it?
A lot of relationships run into trouble or even dissolve because of financial disagreements. Despite being far from this stage in the relationship, the answer to this question can reveal a lot about how a person views money, their values, and their goals. Plus, it’s just fun to dream.
2. What do you get on your Subway sandwich?
I worked at Subway for a couple years back in the day and you’d be surprised how much a person’s sandwich of choice reveals about them. (Much in the same way looking at what people put in their grocery carts reveals a lot about them.) Asking about Subway preferences gives insight into lifestyles, food preferences and sometimes even odd habits.
3. If you could do anything in the world – and time, money and existing knowledge weren’t barriers – what would you do?
It never ceases to amaze me how few people are actually doing what they wanted to do with their lives. People spend time and money to go to school and/or gain experience in their chosen fields – and all too often it is because they felt that it was what they were ‘supposed’ or ‘expected’ to do. Of course, that’s a tangent for another time and place. For now, this question helps reveal your date’s interests and passions.
4. What’s the first section of the newspaper you reach for?
Again, another question that reveals interests and values. Also, it’s good to know whether or not you’ll both be fighting for the same section of the newspaper first in the mornings.
5. You have won an all-expenses paid vacation to anywhere! Where are you headed?
Notice I said “anywhere” and not “anywhere in the world”? I’m still a little choked that no one has ever given me “international space station” or “Mars” as answers. But, I digress. Dreaming is fun and this question is just fun to ask and answer.
These questions leave room for great follow up questions and potential for great conversation to be had. In my experience, I’ve found that somewhere along asking these questions, something that one or both people are very passionate about comes out.
This is not to say that I think “So, what do you do?” should be banned from date questions. I like to ask out of curiosity. However, questions like these are a fun and creative way to get to know someone while breaking away from the “So, what do you do?” mould. And if you or your date have decided to go in another direction, at least you’ve asked and answered some fun questions while getting to that point.Image courtesy of pakorn / FreeDigitalPhotos.net