It’s Friday night and you have something of a blind date. You’ve seen photos of this guy courtesy of a friend, have spoken to him constantly by way of text messages and/or the phone, and now the time has come to meet face-to-face.
Your stomach turns, the anxiety starts to kick in; What are you going to wear? What will he actually look like? What will you talk about? The anxiety may even consume you so much that you may have already ruined the date. Many people get overwhelmed over dating, and I don’t get it. Yes, you want to be unbelievably hot, smart and funny – but if that’s usually you, then what’s there to worry about?
Confidence is hard to have. I know this first-hand, but over the years and having ‘matured’ a bit, I’ve learned that confidence itself exudes so much more than sexiness. Remember that and practice!
Now, moving along…
Date night isn’t only scary for us women. As much as men want to exude machismo, they feel anxiety too. They have to look like a million bucks (because what woman wouldn’t love that?), they usually pay, and most importantly, they need to figure out where to take us. Granted, you’ve been speaking on a daily basis and he should have an idea of your likes/dislikes, but he doesn’t know you that well.
I say don’t be too romantic on the first date. Why? Well, times have changed. We love chivalry, but some woman feel overwhelmed when a man is too into her. That’s just how we’ve become wired in society unfortunately. So tone it down a bit. Hold doors open and be polite, but unless you’re planning to open her car door forever, don’t start something you won’t be continuing on with– hate that!
A good daytime date with an active type could include bowling, golfing, a picnic, a baseball game, or even an amusement park. If she’s a quieter type, then a museum, art gallery or walk through Central Park may be just the thing.
For a night time date, what else than dinner, right? Just don’t choose a chain restaurant like Olive Garden. They may have great food, but I’m sure she’s been there, done that. Be memorable by choosing a smaller, less commercial type of restaurant.
Movies are good, but just understand you can’t get to know each other if there’s a movie playing. If she’s anything like me, she’ll be telling you to zip it!
As for me, I would always suggest Dave & Busters day or night. I absolutely love playing arcade games and it helps that they have food and liquor to calm your nerves, but never have more than two drinks! Tipsy or intoxicated is not a flattering side for someone to see on the first date. You don’t want to be seen as a floozy. Comprende?
Now hopefully I’ve calmed you down with this here article and you can relax. Have fun!