Getting Back Out There After A Breakup

It happened again.  Another failed relationship. Whether you were in love, in like, or just simply going with the flow, break ups are hard. If you’re no stranger to the single life, such as myself, it may not take you long to re-engage yourself into the dating world; however, I caution, it’s not an easy world to live in. You must take it with a grain of salt, follow your instincts, and don’t be afraid to try something new.

If you’re the dumper or the dumped, getting back out there is a process and it is the same for everyone.

How DO you integrate yourself back into the scene?

Take some time to mourn

The more in touch you are with yourself, the easier it will be to let go. Have you been true to yourself throughout the relationship? If so, you’ll bounce back quicker than it took you to find him. If you’ve sacrificed a lot to be with him, this may be a little more challenging for you, but not to worry – it will just take more time.

Do what you love

I’m not talking about reading or drawing, I’m talking about attending events or going to restaurants – you won’t meet anyone by staying home all the time. When you’re ready to start talking to men again, they’ll be there waiting for you, but don’t stop living until that happens.


Try something new

Remember that friend  you haven’t seen in a long time, the one you keep making tentative plans with but then you never actually follow through? Follow through. Friends have friends who have friends, and so on. In comfortable social settings, you may feel compelled to meet more people and ease yourself back into the dating scene; even open yourself up to being asked for your number.

I understand that the effects of a breakup may force you to want revenge over your broken heart, but that is the last thing that you do. The BEST revenge is to be happy, and move on… FAST!

Header Image courtesy of Salvatore Vuono /
Body Image courtesy of Dan /
The following two tabs change content below.
I'm not a dating expert, and I am certainly NOT claiming to be a relationship expert - I am however, very observant and attentive to things that matter to the heart. I'm a single mother, in my thirties, I have a very demanding yet rewarding career in Marketing and Public Relations; and oftentimes, dating and relationships take a back seat, so I'm still searching for my prince charming. In the meantime, I'm happy being me, with or without a man.

Latest posts by Lynne Roy (see all)