Doctor Who has been around for 50 years. Interestingly enough, it has always been a close reflection of us as a society. From its black and white beginnings in 1963 – when it wasn’t right for men and women to travel together unless they were married or family – to the high definition action show where the Doctor falls in love with all of his two hearts.
As I sit wrapped up in my very fuzzy Tardis blanket sipping tea from a Tardis shaped mug waiting for tomorrow’s Christmas special, I think of things that Doctor Who has taught me about dating.
1) Just because it looks like an angel don’t mean it’s trustworthy
Something I learned after a few Doctor Who Christmas specials: It’s always the freaking angel. I think at this point in my life I have some trust issues with angels. Sometimes they’re packing heat in their horns and other times their halos are deadly weapons. Either way, the angels are aliens out to get the human race.
And then came an angel even more evil than before. The Weeping Angel. A stone angel not unlike ones often seen in gardens, graveyards and old churches. They can only move when they are not seen. As soon as they are being looked at, they turn into the stone angel you see. These angels attack by seeing you into the past. They feed off of the time energy left behind.
So don’t blink. Not even for a second. Just don’t.
And remember, they might look like an angel, but it doesn’t mean they’re right for you.
2) To create evil, subtract love and add anger
It has been well established that Daleks are evil. They scare children and adults alike rolling around screaming “exterminate!” in a robotic voice. They are monsters who feel only hate. And no matter how many times the Doctor “defeats” them, they always find a way back.
More recently the Daleks found a way back by turning humans into Daleks. This was accomplished by subtracting love and adding anger.
The Doctor’s companion Amy was in danger of turning into a Dalek. She was losing the love she had for her husband Rory and was full of anger towards him. Between the two of them we see what a lack of communication did for their relationship. It added anger and resentment and eroded away at their love for each other turning them bitter.
When they found the love they had for each other and took away their anger, they were able to turn evil into good.
So I take this with me on dates. Forget the anger I have towards those who didn’t work out. Add some appreciation for this opportunity to get to know someone new.
3) Goodbye always hurts, but it makes way for another hello
When Christopher Eccleston (Nine) regenerated into David Tennant (Ten), I was not happy. Who is this dorkwad in the suit? Bring me back my brooding Doctor in the leather jacket!
I spent the first few episodes of season two very unhappy and mourning the loss of “my” doctor. I didn’t like this new guy. I wasn’t ready for this sudden change. I was just starting to really like Nine. But when Ten came gallivanting on to the space ship drunkenly singing “always bring a banana to a party” he was forgiven and I went on to have many happy adventures with him.
Ten and I had a wonderful time together, but then it was time for him to go too. I cried so hard when he turned into Matt Smith (Eleven). But soon enough, I began to accept Eleven as the new Doctor. So much so that I am not looking forward to meeting Twelve. But I imagine that when the pain of losing Matt Smith subsides, eventually I will learn to love again and will accept Peter Capaldi as the new Doctor.
Likewise with companions. Sometimes we have the opportunity to get to know and love companions like Rose and Donna and Amy and Rory. Other times, we have to say goodbye after only one episode like with Astrid and Madame De Pompadour.
Goodbye is always tough, especially when it’s too soon. But only with those goodbyes are we able to create room for new experiences. And only by accepting the loss of these characters was I able to get to love the new ones.