It’s that time of year; jingle bells are ringing, and it is a great opportunity for introducing your new man to your family…or is it? Coming from someone who hasn’t brought a man home for over ten years, this is unchartered territory for me. To be honest, I’m not big into family gatherings. That’s not to say that I don’t love my family. I do, but the idea of making small talk with every single one of them is a task even the most enthusiastic of talkers wouldn’t enjoy. I do, however, look forward to seeing them every year.
When you have a new man, I wonder…. Is Christmas really the time to introduce him to your family?
Have you talked about it?
I’m sure the topic has been brought to light between the two of you at one time or another, but it is an important aspect, and the first step, to determining holiday plans and expectations.
Are you ready?
If you’re like me, you wait until you know the relationship is heading in a direction you’re both comfortable with. So, maybe you haven’t revealed your man’s identity, or that he even exists, to your family yet. Holiday introductions may put too much pressure on him, or the relationship. If that’s a risk you are willing to take, then by all means, take it. I, on the other hand, would rather err on the side of caution, so if that means waiting until after the holidays to introduce him to my family, then so be it – there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
What are his plans?
Don’t assume that because you’re officially declared a couple that things will magically work out around the holidays. The holidays are a hectic time, to say the least, and it may take time to incorporate both your families’ festivities into your schedules. If you’ve just started dating, maybe this year is not the year; rather you should make your own plans, just the two of you. Not only will you likely enjoy it more, but you’ll create your own first holiday memories.
Introductions are not something that can be forced; if your schedules happen to coincide with one another’s, I say it’s all the better. Just don’t psyche yourself up with unrealistic expectations. That said, if it’s important to you to spend the holidays with each other’s families, tell him; otherwise, he will never know.
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