For many people, marriage is where dating goes to die. With wedding bells fading into the distant past, the monotony of daily life replaces the twitterpated feeling of early romance. If the work-eat-sleep-repeat pattern is getting you down, never fear! Even rock stars and supermodels risk a rut, and use date nights to keep the flame alive. Just look at David Bowie & Iman who are still together more than 20 years later.
“The secrets to a happy marriage are, you have to talk to each other all the time and the other one is have fun together. You have to really like the person and enjoy their company too.” – Iman
Make some simple changes to add fun to your married routine and you’ll be whistling like a love bird in no time.
Plan a Consistent Date Night
Block off your calendar and guard those hours together as sacred. Your date night is alone time for the two of you to enjoy each other. Find things you both like doing. Recreate romantic outings from your early time together, and day dream new adventures to experience as a couple.
Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
The dating graveyard sneaks up on us because it’s so comfortable. It’s easy. And quiet. Yes, it’s more convenient to lounge in your sweats and catch up on reality TV—but too many comfortable evenings mess up the romance. Think back to when you first met. Everything was new and exciting. Make your date nights memorable by doing things outside of your comfort zone and creating new exciting moments. Skip dinner and a movie. Try karaoke, kayaking, dance classes, or skydiving. According to a study by Psychologist Arthur Aron, “self-expanding” activities help strengthen romantic attraction.
I know. Boring right? Let’s make it fun! Dates are prime opportunities to discuss what you adore about your mate. Share things you appreciate, admire, and can’t live with out. This edification encourages connection and will leave you both feeling happier. Don’t believe me? Check out this fun video from Upworthy.
Alright, you got those three Cs? Now comes the fourth one, ‘creating memories’. Here are some fantastic ideas to help you get started:
- Check out fun activities on deal-of-the-day websites like Groupon and LivingSocial.
- Try food from a Country you want to visit some day.
- Explore boutique Coffee shops in your area and taste-test designer drinks.
- Cook together. Recreate master chef competitions or check out a cooking class at a local high-end market.
- Experience Culinary excellence by eating at a Michelin-starred or Zagat rated restaurant.
- Cheer up! Find activities that make you laugh.
Let’s “C” our way outside this dating slump and have some fun.
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